Hey Sis! I’m hoping all is well and healthy with you today and that your edges are flourishing just like your melanin is. As I sit down to write this, it’s currently wash day for me. And I’ve got to say that as the years go on, the stress of my routine has gotten to me several times. It’s gotten so bad that I’ve gonna month (sometimes more) without washing my hair, simply because the thought of all of those steps is overwhelming. I’m trying some things here and thee o completely overhaul and destress my routine ( a girl can hope right?). However, until that glorious day comes I’ve found a few things that we can implement into our routines that can help to destress us a little bit.
The first thing that i did was figure out the top 3 things that caused the most stress in a wash day routine, and mine happen to be:
Almost every week when it’s time for wash day, one of these things is the problem. Either something comes up on wash day, or I’m overwhelmed by the time it takes so I put it off, (especially if my period is coming), or I’m broke and out of that $25 conditioner I love so much. It never fails that something doesn’t go according to plan, and now I’m stressing about my hair. “Go Natural” they said, “You’ll love it they said”, however they failed to say how stressful keeping up with glorious hair like this is. So i started trying different things, and found a few small ways to “de-stress” my wash day routine (to a certain extent). Wash day routines are often times inherently stressful by definition, so without getting rid of it in general there isn’t a way to remove all stress. However implementing these top 3 tis can definitely assist with some of it sis!:
1) Don’t put wash day on your day off!
Finding the best day is still something I’m trying to figure out, however I have figured that my day off is not it. It’s seldom that my days off are “free” and so spending a whole day (or even 5 hours) on my hair is not possible (especially if I’m sleeping in, and you know I am sis). I have been splitting my wash day between 2 work days, instead of 1 off day and its been working pretty well, which leads me to my next tip.
2) Don’t do it all at once!
I’m sure i’m not the only one that believes a ridiculously complex wash day routine done all at once is the path to glorious waist length hair. However, I’m convinced that this is false, and I’ve got about half an inch of growth to show for it. I’ve been doing my routine in “halves” and my hair has been flourishing (probably not falling out as much from the stress). A Pre-poo and Detangling session one night, and a Wash and style session the next (about 2 hours a piece), have been helping me do my hair on time and keep my hair done. Having to push through only half of what needs to be done has helped a lot as a motivator, and so far is keeping me on track to reach my goals.
3) Have “Backup” products readily available
I’m sure I’m not the only one who made her own products in the beginning of her journey, but gave up on that a couple years in. Well let me tell you that I’ve started that up again, kinda. I have “back up” products that are easily made at home (for example honey and coconut oil for a quick treatment). Having these ingredients on hand, when I run out of products and I’m broke (or “saving” as I like to call it) I’ll just throw it together real quick and use that. They are still really great for the hair, take 2 seconds to put together, and are all food items that you more than likely have on hand. This will help from putting off your routine because you don’t have the product you want. It’s much better for your hair to be taken care of on time with a simple product, then to forget to go to the store for three weeks and be looking at one heck of a detangling session.
If you still use a water spray bottle, add a little lavender to it before using it on your hair. It will be like aromatherapy every day and help to reduce stress naturally as well.
All of these this coupled together with a little meditation has been helping me stay on time with my routine and keep my hair flourishing and looking good (even after 5 years natural!). I encourage you to try some of these things yourself and see if they help you as well, And maybe one day, we’ll have a routine that we don’t have to “de-stress” in the first place.
Until then, Good Luck on your journey sis, and don’t forget to live your best healthy life!