Hey Sis! I hope things are going well for you! Since the first quarter of of 2019 is over and we started spring cleaning last month, I thought today we would circle back to spring cleaning and focus on something that all of us need to clean out… suppressed emotions. Yes this is a tough one for many of us to deal with, old boyfriends, best friends that betrayed you, and family members that hurt you. Like it or not, all of these things can affect you for the rest of your life if you don’t take the time to clean them out and heal your wounds.
One of the biggest ways that harboring these old emotions can affect you is when you are trying to build new relationship. My personal story is that since I experienced betrayal in my last relationship it has become very hard for me to trust again. Trust among other things, is the foundation to any relationship whether its a friendship, a family member, or a lover. Without the ability to trust its very unlikely that your relationships will survive and thrive. Now don’t get me wrong, I can’t say that trusting a person is solely on you, because it isn’t. They have to also display behavior that is worthy of trust as well. But, if you don’t clear out your own issues, they could be doing everything right, and you still wouldn’t trust them.
So what steps did I take?
Well first and foremost, I won’t sit here and say that I’m perfect at building trust for a person. It takes a while and there is a couple of important things I need to see from them. The most important is: Do they do what they say their going to do? Trustworthy people do what they say they are going to do. If you find that you’re dating someone, and time after time they are constantly breaking promises, missing dates, and other things. Then you’re not going to be able to trust that person, and no matter how much you love or like them you’re going to have to let that one go. A person that wants you in their life is accountable to you, and if that person isn’t keeping their word (especially when it’s new), then that’s a good sign that you can’t trust them. As far as clearing my own suppressed emotions to allow myself to trust again here are a couple things I did:
- Reviewed my relationship with the person that hurt me, and determined what went wrong – Not only did I figure out the early warning signs for betrayal, but I also accepted that I played a role in it too. Knowing the things I did wrong and fixing them, gives me hope for the next relationship and for me hope allows for trust.
- Realized that not all people are bad – yes there are some terrible people out there that are extremely selfish, and hurt people on purpose. Knowing though, that not everyone is like this can allow me to give someone new a chance
So ladies, those are a couple reasons why cleaning out your suppressed emotions is important and a couple things I looked out for and did that helped. I hope that this information is helpful to you and that you’re able to apply some of it in your life. What are some of the things you’ve done in your life that helped you on this journey? Comment down below and let me and all of your other sisters know!
And don’t forget to live your best life sis!