Being a woman is amazing, but it’s not an easy job! We have the awesome responsibility of caring for and attending to the wellbeing of our families, friends, and our communities. We hold titles such as mom, wife, daughter, sister, friend, confidante, helpmate, rib, backbone, caretaker…you name it! We devote a great deal of who we are ensuring that others become who they need to be. We are socialized to do everything, and to be everything to everybody. But what do we do when being a woman becomes too much to handle?
Many of us serve as the “glue”. We struggle with doing what’s best for us and doing what’s requested of us. Our capacity to keep giving and to keep going is often superseded by the fact that we’ve reached capacity. Saying “No” isn’t about other people, it’s about self-preservation. The goal is not to be a superwoman, but rather to be a super woman. This type of woman has limits but knows that she is not limited. She understands the importance of setting boundaries on her space, her time, and her resources. She believes in being transparent. She will always give it her all, but will not feel obligated to do it all. She is unapologetic about asking for help, and has no qualms admitting when her breaking point is approaching. She is in tune with her feelings and emotions, and advocates for herself when necessary.
As women, we have to allow opportunities to tend to self. The is counterintuitive to how we were designed, but it’s an integral part of our ability to be beneficial. I liken it to the safety instructions you receive when flying. In case of an emergency, you are to secure your oxygen mask FIRST, before assisting those around you. Self-care may seem selfish, but the result is always selfless. Investing in you allows others the best of you instead of what’s left of you. Whether it’s a day of pampering, Girls Night Out, doing something you enjoy or NOT doing something you hate, give yourself permission to make yourself a priority.
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