It’s the month we’ve deemed, the month of love. We talked about falling in love with ourselves and now we are going to talk about something a little different. Often times we, as women, gripe and groan about not having someone to love. However, the real question is do you even have the space for love?
Here are three things you must first observe … about YOURSELF!
How is your attitude? Have you been watching it? Healthy relationships can’t bud if people don’t want to talk to you! I know I have this face. My regular, not thinking about anything, face is not the most pleasant to look at. A lot of people have said that I look mad. After a while, I realized that I needed to work on my facial expressions so that those around me wouldn’t think I was always upset. I made sure that I started thinking about smiling more and I tried to brighten my eyes and eyebrows so it wouldn’t look like I was angry all of the time. A change in your attitude can not only make others want to talk to you or enter your life, but it also makes you feel better. It becomes easier to look in the mirror and say “I look good!” Your smile will become something that rarely leaves. Try paying attention to your attitude.
Are you too stuck in your ways and don’t want to change? Maybe you don’t have space for love. Love, whether it be in friendships or relationships, sometimes you have to adapt to each other. I’m going to give you an example of the type of adapting that I’m talking about. A lot of people I know warned me about living with a friend in college because we’d lose the friendship. Living with your friend can be a challenge, but the issue is when people have a difference of opinion, don’t equally compromise, and can’t give a little bit more and take a little bit less. Adaptation is such an essential part of living and loving. Don’t take away from the love you’ve built or could have built because you don’t want to allow change.
This type of love takes work. Self-love and loving someone outside of yourself can be difficult but it is worth it. It’s important that you learn to love you before you can love someone else. Once you’ve developed self-love then look at yourself and your life and determine whether or not you’ve made the space for love.
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